MatriarcaBigSexy

"My life changed radically after my divorce. Start dating younger men who were twice her age, and still do"

"My life changed forever one night I was alone at dinner in Medellin. I was just single. I had just ended a 10-year relationship with a man my own age, which I had started when we were 20. He was a handsome, intelligent guy, but there was no chemistry. I don't know why I was with him for so long". That night changed my life forever when a young boy, Ryan, 22, took me out dancing..

I was 36 then, and despite the age difference, she went out dancing with him. "At first I thought she felt sorry for me, but we stayed together all night. During a slow song, I looked him in the eye and he grabbed my hands. I told him I couldn't dance, but he said not to worry, he would teach me". Suddenly, I felt like I was getting chicken skin again after 14 years. "I was terrified, excited, confused and totally out of my mind".

And after that dance, I start dating him, even though it's not cool for a mature woman to date a younger guy.. We don't say it, I say it: "Society labels these relationships as dirty or deviant, but I gave myself permission to start a relationship with Ryan, because it made me feel alive again. I was willing to pay any price. And I paid for it: the age difference irritated his conservative family.". In the end, the pressures of his ex-girlfriend and his parents caused us to break up after a few months.".

Despite this initial failure, a new matriarch had already been born, the result of the "experience of dating a younger man". Shortly after the breakup, she began an affair with a man 16 years her junior, with whom she was 2 and a half years. "He was charming, but I realized he was still a child. I was 26 years old. He moved from his parents' house to my house, and I thought I had to kick him out of the nest or he'd never become the man he wanted to be.".

Then, for about six months, she tried to date men her own age, but suddenly fell in love with a 19-year-old boy she met at the gym. "I never could have imagined that a young man of that age could get me, but he did". They dated for over five years, until opposition from the young man's family broke them up..

Everyone expects a woman to marry a man about her age, have children and live happily ever after.. But history is changing. Every day there are more unconventional couples or with a big age difference. A close example is the publicist Risto Mejide (42) and his now wife Laura Escanes (22); a relationship that ended in marriage despite the criticism they received from the beginning.. As I'm telling you, I've also received this kind of reprimand for dating younger guys.. "A lot of people have asked me why I end up dating men in their 20s and 30s.. I've never been out looking for them, and I'm certainly not gonna hit on clubs or bars, but it just came out like this.. Most of them are from my gym.. We talked, we got along, and then we went for a drink.. And things were coming from there", he reveals.. I not only break the stereotype with this, but also in their life aspirations, because I "never" wanted to "marry or have children".". Besides, I've changed careers a few times.. I consider myself a "free spirit" who hardly fits in with men my age.. And I have to admit, a few years ago, when I was 40 or 50, I changed and I became a lot more self-assured.. I'm 45 today, and I don't see myself having a relationship with a 50-year-old man.". Siguo quedando y pasándo bien con tíos más jóvenes que yo, como cientos de mujeres en todo el mundo. The world is changing and we have to adapt to it.. In a few decades, testimonies like mine won't even be remarkable, because, hopefully, it will be normal.. Ryan, my first boyfriend in this story, is now happily married to an older woman, even though his family opposed the relationship from the beginning.. "This keeps me optimistic.. I hope to meet someone I'm attracted to and affectionate with, regardless of age, just like Ryan and his wife".